Today I am sharing one of my favorite bloggers' most recent posts. I found her blog post to be relevant, perfectly timed, and I think the post could be very helpful for many of my readers. I'll also be tossing in a few random photos of my babies from this past weekend just for fun. In the original post, Maskcara included photos that corresponded with the particular article, but...I replaced them with images of my beauts because, yolo. So without further ado, here is an excerpt from "Maskcara"- blogger, makeup artist, entrepreneur, mother, and self proclaimed lover of all things beautiful:
"Let’s talk about family photos for a minute. I know its not the most important thing in the world.
It’s just pictures.
You may never even print them, they may never see the light of day outside of your instagram feed in fact. But here’s the thing. I think photos matter. I know we live in ‘a pic or it didn’t happen’ world and it sometimes can be a little (or a lot!) excessive but don’t let that belittle the good part.
I have 6 year old right now. He has knuckles where dimples once were, he says all the words properly now (except bazania instead of lasagna- I’m holding on dearly to that one!), he was yelling for me at the park the other day by my full name!
But photos? They bring me back my 3 year old. The one with curls falling into his eyebrows and a mater permanently glued to his fist. With photos aiding my failing memory I can have the best of both worlds. I can see my babies grow and celebrate every milestone and STILL have them captured forever in every stage before that.
I don’t take photos all day every day because I want to enjoy my moments too and I know I’ll never look back at a million images, but I will look back at a choice few. Which is why family photos do matter a lot to me. But I’ve noticed that sometimes the family gets lost in the photos and sometimes the photos sessions turn into a marathon and a headache. I asked Jessica Janae (photographer extraordinaire) what her advice was for avoiding those pitfalls and she helped me give some good ideas and perspective!
- Perfectionism might ruin your family photos.
The biggest issue I see when getting mama’s ready is how stressed out they seem. Are the outfits all good enough? Is everyone having a good hair day? I wish I’d gotten a spray tan… and of course I’m breaking out! Why won’t the kids cooperate!? Where is my husband?….
Here’s the thing to remember. If mom ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. Unhappy people are not photogenic. Unhappy kids are especially un-photogenic. If you think about it you probably care more about documenting the love you have for each other, the personality and stages of your kids, their quirky expressions, the dynamic that your family fits in at this very moment that will never be quite this way again. That’s what I want to see when I look back, that’s what I want to remember. SO don’t get too stressed about the details. Most of them won’t matter to you 5 years from now.
- Harbor loving happy feelings. Spend some time thinking about your family. Why you love them, what makes them special? Loving feelings shine through a photo so bright, it can’t be faked and even if it could you’re probably not a professional actor so leave the fake stuff to the pros:) Focus on actually being happy, then looking happy will come easy!
- Plan an event for after the photos. Getting ice cream? Going to chuck -e-cheese or even having a little movie night. Something everyone can look forward to as a reward for being so cooperative (we hope:) If you make this a traditional it might even help make “family photo day” a looked forward to day around your house. Rather than a day of fighting and rushing that will be dreaded.
- Don’t lose your cool. Jess told me the biggest mistake parents make is worrying about the kids too much. She says if the parents will stay pleasant and posing she can handle the kids. My trick to not freaking out when my kid is freaking out is to have a sense of humor about it. I really subscribe to the idea that laughter fixes most things. I have always found that if I don’t get upset, they won’t stay upset for very long. Above all don’t get angry! Tension spreads like a disease and if you lose your cool the photoshoot is as good as over.
- Be flexible, go with the flow. If one kid refuses to let you help them with their hair or another keeps grimacing instead of grinning, just see the humor in it! This is them after all!
We’d all but given up on Billy posing happily for a single second at this point but then we let him look at the phone and we got the cutest photos of the day. Did I want an iPhone in my photos? Not particularly, but it's still cute and this is about the only time this boy will sit still and let me snuggle him so..its an accurate portrayal of us."
So that's it! I hope you all find this super useful. I felt that trying to rewrite a post like this and "make it my own" would somehow diminish the words that "Maskcara" had so eloquently crafted. Now go out there are slay those beautiful fall photos and if you haven't booked your session yet, get with me about a date before its too late!
To view this original post on Cara's blog follow this link: http://www.maskcara.com/2016/10/19/the-best-family-photo-advice-you-never-hear/